Guess what? My brother loves weeding and yard-work, but hates laundry to this day, while I gladly did everyone’s laundry in exchange for not having to do dishes, etc. Start with baby steps. Hence, the value of discipline in academic cannot be overestimated. I loved reading this, this is exactly the direction we are headed in, in our home. And my third child, who has never been spanked, has *never* thrown a public tantrum. Will be paying more attention to how to respond to my kiddos in like manner. They can be rather logical and “good” when they are feeling good, accepting redirection and “We’re not playing with that” with general ease. If it was, everyone would do it. You all have responsibilities. Christian spiritual disciplines Spiritual disciplines are biblical practices that a believer does to grow spiritually in Christ. . This habit makes you an achiever in your life. It’s hard, and sometimes my 5-year-old says “When I’m a grown up I’m going to eat junk and buy junk for my kids” and I just say “Okay, when you’re a grown up, you go ahead.” Most of the time she ‘gets it’ but hey…don’t we sometimes just want the junk too? They get mad, they yell, the kid still doesn’t listen, and they spank. When people see us happy and satisfied in our life they tend to be more attracted to us. Why perseverance is important. So I’m trying to figure out how not to argue with them when we visit when there are altercations/disobedience between cousins!! And they MEAN it. This was very effective and really only required one instance before they got that I was serious and it was important. School discipline relates to the actions taken by a teacher or the school organization towards a student (or group of students) when the student's behavior disrupts the ongoing educational activity or breaks a rule created by the school. I really need your help around here, and then we can all have more fun.” Then let them choose what they want to do. Bath, pj’s, put away toys, books, prayers then lights out. My 21-month-old might wake up from a nap angry, but once I give him a snack he’s perfectly fine. I’m sorry if you thoguth screeching brats was aimed at you. It teaches a person to be responsible and respectful. ( this was before I had even heard the term positive discipline and I was simply intuitively doing what I felt was right). For instance if you are out and there is a table full of sweets, or what they make for their own breakfasts, etc…, We talk a lot about healthy food choices all the time. Some of you are going to read this and think that you would just never handle things that way, that I am way too easy and I don’t punish enough. We just had an aweful bedtime, the kids were crazy, I spanked, cried, prayed and cuddled and 2.5 hrs later they were all sleeping – boys 4, 2, and baby. I was never spanked in anger and was told “I love you” every single day. Cleaning up is a fight and when I want to go somewhere and take the baby (11 months), I feel I give in just so I can do something. And I must say, I had to do a double take…your daughter’s handwriting is superb! The very purpose of the OT is not only to give valuable life insight, but also to convey the very deep love of God for His chosen people. and to be honest I feel more conflicted than when I started out. Until that happens, we do a lot of “positive discipline” all the time, and there doesn’t seem to be lack of opportunity for either that sort of correction or spankings. I guess the bottom line is that I don’t feel like I can call spanking ineffective or wrong when the Bible speaks so many times about not “sparing the rod.” Thoughts? For the tantrums based on understanding, I try to give them a way to make me understand. Or, bring snacks or a game along with you and stick him in the cart anyway and give him the snacks or game to keep him occupied. Positive discipline makes so much sense to me intuitively however in situations such as these I feel powerless and worry that I’m creating a monster! Please try again. The goal is the efficient use of time and this helps get the most out of time by setting limits to the time an activity can take. Thank you so much for this, Kate. I’m going to try these. Self-discipline is difficult. At this point I refuse to engage her and tell her we can talk when she isn’t whining. After a particuly bad day yesterday i have decided something needs to change. And why is that when we try to change our habits by either breaking bad habits or building good habits, we only follow through for so long before we give up and revert to our old ways?The biggest problem, especiall… But, IMO, privileges come with responsibility. But then, I turned it around, and started asking him if he was sad. Second, those verses were written by Solomon. If someone is hurt, then we talk about how that person was hurt and suggest they say sorry/make them feel better. Importance of Discipline in Student life . It hurt and made you feel sad. Good luck! Since they want to be out and not home with Daddy, this is usually effective. That was in the spring of 2011. I’ll do those chores in the evenings. I show them how I do it and they often just jump in and help, because it’s “normal.”  If you don’t model cleaning yourself, they will not do it. That verse is “not” talking about verbal instruction. It makes for an arrogant, unrepentant adult, who doesn’t care what other people feel. I’m struggling with my 3 year old daughter and not leaving her baby brother alone. If rudeness were to continue, directed at me, I would not do what they wanted and would tell them I would be ready to talk when they were ready to do so nicely. So while can’t get people to honestly admit to what they do, as parents, we hear the kids talking a lot. All the members must obey the head of the family. Do you expect them to come when called? I guess as long as your children are well behaved your form of discipline is working just fine for you. Something to consider. Wow, great ideas! And you just never know. I have a question about this statement that you made: “Since that’s probably how it goes down in a lot of homes, we can’t say that spanking is okay, in a general sense, or that “the right way” is better. Proverbs 29:15 and that never stopped it. Good ideas, but life experience is important. So rather than tell him he can’t watch TV anymore, tell him … I go in and say good night to each alone and then Daddy goes in to do a final “tuck” and say good night, and then they are down. I have been praying about this very thing, how to discipline and disciple and be loving and not yell, yada yada yada! He is also very smart. Life of great men is examples of discipline. The younger set, from around a year to 2 and a half is a bit different. He screams and fights me to be put into a shopping cart, such as at the grocery store. Thank you for some tips about how another mom deals with little one issues. She may be a literal woman, or she may be Wisdom personified. You don’t see much “punishment” here. We believe “the rod” is figurative. We have lots of examples of successful people who achieved success by practicing discipline in their life. We haven’t allowed anyone else to spank our child. I love medical freedom, sharing natural remedies, developing real food recipes, and gentle parenting. If the Old Testament is flawed, then why did Jesus bother referencing it? All these can lead to success and improvement and will allow you to achieve your goal in sports. Discipline and punctuality make you a confident professional. We also talk him through his feelings when he is overwhelmed. Parents, teachers and elders have significant role to play. Thanks! It didn’t help. And in those cases it is absolutely best to instruct, train, practice, tell them what TO do, etc. The Disciplined Life 2 The plight of the modern church is that it is striving for the way of lest resistance. Even during the time of performance, the discipline in terms of going to bed on time and warming up decides the final outcome. I’ve found I can’t motivate them to do something that they really don’t want to do by force. Hand!” and then will pull me in and show me what he wants. Self-discipline is a character trait that most people admire. * Getting up in the morning when I would really like to sleep. And then there are those at church who still say “we don’t spank enough anymore and that’s what’s wrong with our kids” and they almost refuse to learn any other way. It is very, very hard to replace your habits and thought processes, but it is possible. To be quiet when you ask (for good reason, like daddy worked all night and needs to sleep. Do you an force the consequence immediately after the child does wrong, or do you give them one more chance, say what will happen if they don’t gain, and then enforce the consequence? My husband and I were both spanked as kids and both of us grew up feeling so very loved by our parents and we knew that our parents didn’t spank us in anger. The rod references a shepherd’s staff, used to guide an errant sheep (or child) back to safety or the correct path. ?—-We are having some issues with our older daughters, ages 9 and 7 with deliberate and repeated disobedience even when we are trying to implement the redirection and discussing the situation, etc. When you discipline yourself to finish every single thing, you form a personality around it. I wonder if you have any other consequences that you use—writing sentences, taking favorite things away, going to bed early, not allowing participation in pre=planned events, etc? My husband and I both come from spanking families, and I’m struggling to find a firm alternative. (I really didn’t “get” how to keep things clean even as an adult and had to learn!) It feels excellent to welcome our juniors in our esteemed ABC College. The instructor mentioned that my daughter pinched her and said she “doesn’t do pinching”. We lead our children by teaching and modeling the behaviors and values we expect. So this shows me that even speaking words or repentance to someone will bring life to the situation, even if they don’t “feel” it in their spirits, they eventually will, and releasing the anger by way of repentance is a way to do this. I shared in another response that one of my kids is really resilient and is a true rock in a storm of chaos, and probably could “handle” being spanked (although has expressed to us previously “I don’t like being spanked. Let me help you out, and we’ll get through this.” The kid’s been like this since barely 3 years old. My parents spanked my brother and me when we were small for major infractions, but not for every thing. I’m so happy we did and I would never go back…my children’s behavior is actually better now than when we spanked!! Spanking only cancelled some emotions, never taught how to handle them. Tell an older child what he can do, rather than what he can’t. They have no self-control or ability to think ahead. We talk about how unhealthy food, especially too much of it, can make you sick. I’ve implemented that same strategy in my life now as I do short power walks in my room to work up a sweat. The bigger boys share a room – the two yr old has been in a toddler bed for 2 months, and I cannot get them to settle! However my son is wonderful, better than most. He was like this as a baby even though he loves sleeping and has always had the right amount of sleep for his age. Also check out our site where we have great recipes. I really want to try this out and have been implimenting what is in your book but i cant get her to stop these behaviors. I clean as I go. All of it if it worked. Many people have a hard time identifying what elements make up self-discipline. It’s always wild brats that screech in stores, etc. Now, this was started in my family when I was 11 or 12, and the youngest wasn’t even a thought yet. First I have to answer this. They do not get it back, especially if it was thrown at a person. When he’s gone beyond healthy boundrys, knows he’s doing wrong it’s discussed, and without humiliation, anger or out of control intimidation he is reprimanded properly and then loved. I don’t have to spank him to get the point across. We’ve recently gotten back to our solid routine (it went down the drain with a new baby, but this has been going on before the new baby). My oldest son did hit, but as it’s been awhile now since I’ve spanked him, he is much more likely to yell “I don’t like that! Most of the time, the real disobedience and tantrums are not because of “behavior” issues, but because they are not feeling right. How To Develop Self-Discipline. An 8-year-old sneaks junk food the minute his parents are out of his sight. The children are physically separated if necessary and we ask what is going on. I remember as a kid being told I had to say sorry to my brother, and sitting there feeling so angry at both him and my mother, then finally spitting out “SORRY” with a nasty tone of voice. A lot of studies have measured the effects of this after the fact. It’s a long process. when it is too easy they add more to the daily target. I felt really bad for doing it, it was emotionally very hard. Also check out our book site for help with Healthy Living Solutions. Self-Control The ability to control your behavior and direct your thinking towards a goal. So bottom line, I give them a few choices from the options I consider okay, and I don’t keep anything around the house normally that I would hate for them to eat (and if we did, like if my husband wanted something that I wouldn’t give them, we’d hide it). Thank you! You know your child best. Our oldest is a very trying child, he was diagnosed with ADHD by one psych. That’s a nice touch.” She may not know how to love him. Ironically if they do these things and I use positive discipline to address it, people might say I “don’t do anything” but if I spanked them and their behavior was exactly the same they would say I “did something.”  Even though the behavior wasn’t different. that owuld be a 40 mile wasted trip and didn’t have the time or money for that. 3. and say “Can you clean up ____?”  They usually smile and do it. Thanks again for the post! It is so important to teach and train your children, but it is not necessary to spank to do it. Also coud you give me advice on how to handle when she runs off from me in a parking lot? In order to succeed a child needs: Self-discipline is the ability to do what is required to reach a goal even if you don't feel particularly motivated. In nature all the planets move in their orbit; the seasons change in accordance with a set order, day and night follow each other at regular intervals, Man must take lessons from Nature. cleaning up the kitchen, our family area, when you are done), then you don’t get to have those things. But what if you do all this, which I do, and they still refuse to do it??? People with high levels of self-discipline like to have 4. (Fun fact: that brother is now grown with children of his own, and runs a tree-trimming and yard work service. As far as “wild brats screaming in stores” I can assure you that mine do not do that. She keeps at it and becomes furious when I ignore her screaming “Mama!!! Although my 21-month-old (almost 22 months) has quite the temper, we don’t see it too often because we talk about things. Our Self discipline is important for success. Our kids are ALLOWED to be in bad moods, they are ALLOWED to feel, they are allowed to have bad days. Thanks for sharing!!!! The shepherds’ hook (aka rod) uses were not to hit the sheep to correct them, but rather, So, we should try to be disciplined from the early stage of life. is mistaken. Sports and athletics are other areas where self-discipline is very vital. Most of our spankings came from blatant disrespect or situations where safety was compromised. With any change, they simply don’t believe it’s “for real” until you’ve proven, over time, that it is. Be clear about your expectations of yourself on ... Focus on one self-discipline skill at a time. It took us several months of us “relapsing” and the kids acting out before we really got a handle on it. Did anyone gain anything there? A lot neater than mine, even! 6 Key Examples of Self-Discipline in Your Personal Life. As one of your seniors, I am here to hold an interactive session with you all and also to deliver a speech on discipline. All our juniors look surprised at this speech ceremony and must be curiously awaiting your Fresher’s Party. 5. I pinned this yesterday, and needed it tonight! There is such a big difference between those two. I hope you’ll join me on the journey to a free and healthy life! if they aren’t spanked or put in time out. Her punishment csused me pain and mental distress. write a book, and you set yourself up to write 5000 words a day, you’re likely It isn’t realistic to expect kids 5 and under with too much energy to just be quiet and still. These examples are great! Or, it can simply be a desire to “love” on him, and she’s accidentally too rough. The phrase “Spare the rod, spoil the child” is often thought to be a proverb from the Bible, but it actually comes from a guy named Samuel Butler in a 1662 poem. Start with baby steps. Thanks for these examples. It’s not typically done “the right way” anyway.”. A 4-year-old interrupts conversations between adults repeatedly because he can’t wait for his turn to speak. What do you do when he throws? This tells me that we need to learn from the mistakes of Solomon by following Jesus’ example, and not the example of a flawed father who physically abused his children and passed this lack of empathy down to his son. I see that you remove them from the situation, discuss the behavior, etc. In the political sphere also, personal ambitions do come on the way and therefore they pose danger to the society. need to be set in stone. I appreciate your response and I hope you know I’m not trying to argue, just to speak to a different perspective! I dont want to do that anymore. Waking Up on Time. My little guy is 9 months old. We have done things like earlier bedtimes (though usually it’s because they’re behaving poorly because they are overtired) and refusing participation in events (again, usually because we feel it’s a bad idea — the kids were told they couldn’t go to church on Wed. nights if they didn’t nap because we were up over an hour past bedtime and it would be Meltdown City at church if they were overtired). Now at almost 4 he finally doesn’t really do it anymore, unless way overtired. You are not only in the good books of your superiors but also become a source of inspiration for your fellow workers. You could also promise him he could pick out a treat at the end of the trip if he stays with you. This can be modified and expanded to fit a lot of situations, and even include disciplinary steps. Pick a direction and start. I think, well I hope, we can all agree that the type of discipline discussed in the Old Testament is child abuse today. It may not work for everyone, but it certainly works for us. Proverbs 23:13-14 Our bedtime routine basically looks like this: Around 8, we send the oldest two kids to go potty, and help everyone into PJs. I’m not writing this because I am a perfect parent. Now he is three and he misbehaves most of the time. We were well behaving children, did not dare to disrespect our parents, or other adult, reacted promptly to all requests and did our chores. Then there’s usually a meltdown. Wahoo! Rod StoneAuthor, For the most part this sounds similar to our home, but if I need to send a seriously strong message they still get a swat on the tail. I needed a mom, not a master. Importance of Discipline in Student life. If any one tells me my son is so nice and compliant, I will know I’m doing something wrong with my (almost) 3yo! Hitting is what one does when angry. To have a progressive and a stable life we should all make sure that we follow a disciplined life. The Power of Discipline to your Success. I wish more parenting articles where written this way. For example – you must have heard the phrase “early to bed and early to rise, make a man healthy and wise”. Sometime before I die I would like to observe this in work. Becoming successful is not a big deal, what it exactly needs is the power of discipline. Examples of a Lack of Self-Discipline . Science and engineering students follow specific conventions as they write lab reports and keep notebooks that include their drawings and results of their experiments. I spend time sitting with them all and instructing on what to pick up and where to put it. The following are the basic types of self-discipline. We live in a world full of distractions. If I feel that I am angry and just want to hit him bc of his behavior, then I know that’s my anger talking and the consequences in that situation won’t be effective! 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